some things I've learned over the past 2 years, 5 months

-say what you mean
-mean what you say
-assumptions hurt (both ways). they also create situations.
-realize your effect on others. however, sometimes you won't know what the long-term effect is until it happens. then you feel a mixture of silliness/apologeticness. but there's really nothing you can do because the damage has been done. this is a tough one.
-when you feel sorry, say so.
-when you don't, don't.
-if you love, love unconditionally. otherwise, what's the point?